Talking to mom friends this morning and realized motherhood is just absolute insanity. We never know what we will get for the day. It is a little out of our control and sometimes at the whim of our kids moods and behaviors.
It swings back and forth, back and forth. I’m constantly tempted to follow the lead of my kids for the days, answering all their calls, meeting their needs first. Sometimes I’m just flat worn. It’s too much.
There has to be moments that I take to rest, to recharge, to stop. Stop all the dish drying, towel folding, juice filling, snack getting, picking up the toys, and shoes. And I have to sit, be still, take a bath, listen to music, sleep, read.
Whatever it is that grounds me that day.
The days I feel most overwhelmed are the days I take my kids lead and set little boundaries for the day. This is an excuse, but I’m not great at boundaries. If we fall into two categories: one who sets strong boundaries and one who isn’t even sure what a boundary looks like, I fall into the latter.
Summertime is hard, I want to entertain my cuties. I want them in activities. But there has to be a limit at some point. Because there are little boundaries in summer. We don’t have school. But there are a lot of opportunities. We have vacation, weeks where my husbands gone, camps, church activities. I get swallowed up into them.
I’m learning ever so slowly people. How to ground myself. Grounded for me is standing firm, confident, having worth, and joy.
Today I am fighting the temptation to clean my entire house before we have to leave at four-thirty. Instead I’m writing, because that is a goal I’ve set. And I’m taking time to slow down, before I serve others in an attempt to better my attitude and to feel refreshed.
Margin.
Making this room in our lives to check in on ourselves. To see how our family is doing. To maybe even sit down to eat, not on the run.
I’m challenging myself with this today. And if the day is slow, it’s not because I’m not doing anything it is because I’m making room.
Making room for us to live, to breathe, to be.
And that’s okay.
How are you making room today?
