“I’m not healed yet.” “When I feel more together I’ll serve. I’ll help.” “I can’t help that person. I don’t have time. It’s too much.”
Some of those phrases are true. Some of them are not.
Perfectionism says we have to be in the perfect spot at the perfect time to do the perfect thing to help the perfect person get to the perfect place where they feel perfect, completely together.
Wow. As I write this out I see how ridiculous that statement is and how impossible it is. No wonder we don’t chase our dreams and goals. Or just help someone. We aren’t sure if we are the “one” that needs to help them, or we aren’t sure if we can commit to that sort of time. These are all valid statements, unless they are statements we use over and over.
Because, at the end of the day we are all busy. We are all stretched. Maybe we need to say no, so we can say yes to the things that give us life. To make room for life-giving stuff. I don’t know what that is for you.
I didn’t understand this.
So for the past few years I’ve had to say no a lot, to a lot of things. Three kids five and under can do that. But I also know there are things that bring me to life. Writing is one. Mentoring is another.
Writing I’ve made a purpose to pursue each week. Mentoring was one I was feeling the itch to add, but I had no idea how.
If we look up, we will see God using us even in these moments. These moments where we aren’t sure if we are ready or not. Hint: I will never know if I’m ready or not. I can’t sit back my whole life, safe, wondering if it’s time or not.
So I moved. I’ve wanted to meet with a few of our college girls, and a door opened for me to start a small group with a few of them. It’s the second small group I serve with. And it is totally life-giving. In saying that there’s not one perfect thing to do. We just have to do, do something.
Two months ago, I was asked to play volleyball for our church and at the time it just didn’t fit in our schedule. I was pretty frustrated. Wondering when life was going to let up so I didn’t feel so overwhelmed with the slightest change.
Now, sitting with that truth two months later. Mondays are the night we were able to meet for this small group. And it is so completely life-giving.
What is one life-giving thing you can pursue with God?